Do you want the best headache remedies to tame your headaches?
When I first read this submission, my heart cried... this story is way too close to my own. The tips Catherine shares also highlight some of the best headache remedies you can use to tame your headaches. Use these tips for stress reduction too.
Why suffer, when you can learn to relax and... pull out some weeds! Learn now and save pain later.
~ A guest post by Catherine Evans
I was diagnosed with Ross River Fever and Glandular Fever in 2005, and I’ve never recovered my health. I now have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS). Being positive is a struggle, especially on those days when I hardly have the energy to make it out of bed.
I believe it’s impossible to always be positive, but to live a fulfilling life I need the positives to be stronger than the negatives… and that’s been such a struggle.
Early on, in a Mickel Therapy session, I was asked what brought me happiness. I had heaps of things… that I could no longer do. Coming up with things that made me happy while I was ill seemed impossible.
How could I be happy, I was sick? I’d be happy when I was better. That was my mentality.
Realising that the illness wasn’t going away any time soon and I had nothing that made me happy was a slap in the face. I desperately needed to find things that I could do every day - with no energy, with all the aches and pains. It took me weeks, but I came up with a list of things; small, medium and large.
Here are some:
Doing things to make me happy was the start of being positive. It’s taken more than ten years to work out that I needed to shed the negatives too. All those feelings - anger, guilt, frustration, annoyance, etc., along with the ones of hoping I’ll be better, anticipating my recovery, saving things for when I’m well again - had to be faced and dealt with.
I’m not good at dealing with emotion. I may cry, laugh or yell, but the emotion always sits inside my chest, heavy and unresolved. I had no idea what to do about that.
I’m not sure what it is that I’ve done that has worked, but over the past year I’ve been doing a lot of spiritual, self-help type learning. In doing this, I’ve had to stare at myself and acknowledge the good and the bad. I’ve had to make peace with the good and the bad. I’ve had to love the good and the bad.
Facing those things which had left an emotional scar was difficult, some of them had almost broken me, yet each had an impact which helped create who I am. I may not like what happened to me, or how I acted/reacted, or how someone else acted/reacted. At times I loathed the mark that was left behind… but I needed to stare down each and every event/instance. I had to make peace with each issue so that it lifted its heavy weight from my chest.
I had to embrace and love all those parts, even the most awful ones, because they made me who I am - warts and all. I imagined giving myself a huge big hug at the worst moment in each instance.
At the time it seemed an odd thing to do, but something has shifted inside. I’m more at peace with myself. Happy with my life.
If I had the choice, I wouldn’t choose to get sick. I’ve changed my entire life to manage my health and that hasn’t been easy.
Today, I can acknowledge that I have a life, even with a chronic illness. I can even say that I have a useful, worthwhile life. I can make a contribution to the world, in my small way. I have found things that make me happy, things I can do for others even with my limitations. These things are positive. My life is positive.
Some days are negative, but I had bad days when I was healthy. I try to remember that as I struggle through those days.
I’m not sure that the things I’ve done will work for everyone, or even anyone else. Each person has their own life, their own interests, their own beliefs, their own baggage and emotions and issues.
I think the key is to know yourself.
There may be a lot of negatives when living with chronic illness, however, I believe I need to find the positives, shed the negatives, and live as positive a life as I can.
Wishing you many many positives.
I have a number of articles on this topic - so you can read more about the best headache remedies here:
Definitely some great tips for us migraine sufferers on the best headache remedies, stress reduction and how to be positive when (if) the migraines turn chronic.
Have a happy, healthy, positive week,
P.S. My Book Migraine Management has some really tips on reducing stress and anxiety.