To find meaning in life I normally try to make sure much of what I do is meaningful. It takes a lot of energy for me to go out, so I need to make sure I take time to check my migraine schedule. I sort of swing from over-committing to under-committing to most activities.
When asked to do something I usually tell people I'll need to get back to them. I have discovered that I need to take some time to be honest with myself. Do I really want to do this, on this day with this person? I check my calendar, pray, sleep on it, and then after I have my honest answer, I give it to others.
I often remind myself that "no" is a complete sentence and that I don't need to explain myself.
Recently I've been under committing and find myself depressed and lonely.
I think "oh I certainly can't do that" when I probably can do at least some part of it.
Finding meaning in life with migraines has changed so much for me over the years. I learned that because I can't do something the way I used to or to my liking (i.e. spend the whole morning walking or a whole day running errands) I tend to not do it at all.
I think I create my own powerlessness and depression sometimes. So I'm learning to have a plan B and C. I look for options like - I can drive separately to things and leave if I need to. I can call venues ahead of time to check for migraine food triggers like incense or fragrances and smoking areas.
I must say that this is all a one-day-at-a-time thing. Some days I'm good about being honest with myself and what my body needs. Other days I slip back into the grief and anger, letting my illness and limitations dominate my thinking.
So by being honest with myself and others around me, I spend time on things that really matter to me.
This gives my life more meaning than just doing things out of obligation. I guess my migraines make me slow down enough to find what's really important now. And its good to remember that changes too over time.